Inspiration is a woman!

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Inspiration is a woman!

I have taken a lot of time to think about this post. I wasn’t sure is it the right time to go deep, when the situation is so difficult for everyone. I decided to wait for the answer to come by itself. Yesterday evening I felt the need to sit down and finish the post. I understood that we need support, connection, and compassion more than ever. So let’s do this! I invite you on a journey towards the inspiration and your happiness. ❤ 

I’ll be honest with you. There’s a job to do. We have the opportunity to transform ourselves and the relationships that we build with others. We can INSPIRATE and change the world that surrounds us. I’m so glad you’re here! We need such brave women who are not afraid to ask questions and seek answers. Especially at a time when humanity needs compassion, kindness, and love. The situation forced us to slow down and take a moment for ourselves. Suddenly it turns out that the world can function differently. Let’s use this time as best as we can!

Did you know that you can influence the environment in which you live? You influence yourself, your partner, children, friends, and coworkers. Your decisions and your lifestyle inspire, arouse curiosity, and encourage others to act. You build the image of Women in the eyes of your children before they find their identity and internal compass. You have the power and strength to live happily and give happiness to others. You are an inspiration! Think this way about yourself and your life. Of course, let me emphasize that I don’t diminish the father’s role in family life in any way. Only that Women are not treated equally with men, and it is up to mothers to determine whether their daughters will enter adulthood confident, knowing their value and being able to set limits. It is also up to mothers how their sons will perceive Women.

a woman with a flower in her hand

Your mother’s behavior was for you the first clash with femininity and the role of women in family life. If your mother did everything she could to make the family “happy” and give up on her needs, then you entered adulthood with this model of femininity. If your mother was crazy, wild, and was aware of her needs, then you entered adulthood with this model of femininity. Even if you didn’t identify with your mother and promised yourself that you wouldn’t be like your mother, you didn’t have another pattern that you could follow. Many women realize at some stage in their lives that they are like their mother. You have a tremendous influence over what kind of woman your daughter will be and how your son will perceive and treat women.

Now, let me go back 22 years. When I was 12, I suffered from anorexia. My self-esteem hid in a box, wrapped itself with a paper, and sent itself under an unknown address. I didn’t have any girlfriend. For years I felt worse than other girls. My body wasn’t changing and I started to see the differences between my figure and other girls. I envied their menstruation and physical changes, which were more and more visible. Jealousy caused discomfort and blocked me internally. Subconsciously, I was looking for negative traits in girls so that it would be easier for me to reject them. My problems with my girlfriends resulted from my low self-esteem. They were a competition for me. I was lucky I’ve changed! And I wonder how many women are still living the same way today?

I wonder how many women cannot connect with other women? How many women treat other women like competition? It’s not about you. If a woman can’t feel good with herself, it’s her defense mechanism. It’s the only way they feel safe within themselves. With this in mind, could you show compassion and understanding? You don’t influence the behavior of others. But you influence how you perceive a given situation. If you show compassion and understanding to another Woman, you will change her reaction.

Let’s talk about relationships as well. Do you know that you have the power to inspire you and your partner? New starts are exciting, but sooner or later, the dark clouds will come. Then it turns out that the partner thinks differently than you do. Perhaps he does not realize that he perceives women stereotypically? Perhaps he doesn’t know what partnership means? Or maybe he is worried about your success because he lacks confidence? You don’t know what relationship pattern he got from home. There are no magic tricks or spells that chase away dark clouds. Your partner won’t change by itself. Inspire yourself to find needs that aren’t met. Inspire your partner to discover the mechanisms that trigger him. Female emotionality makes it very easy to take the initiative. Despite the resistance! Nobody is happy to leave their comfort zone.

What about your work? I know women who have a happy working life. Unfortunately, I also know women who are discriminated against and don’t have equal opportunities for promotion or a raise. Women who are the object of sexist jokes from the guys at work. I experienced harassment on my own, but I was too young to be aware of it. If you will find the courage and say ENOUGH, you will break the silence. Speak up when you hear inappropriate comments under your address. Speak up when you don’t get bonuses you deserve or when someone disturbs you again during your presentation. Don’t let others sign your project. You will put a cat among pigeons, but you will also say NO to the improper treatment of women. If you are afraid of the consequences, then let me ask you a question – Don’t you deserve a job that will make you feel a valuable asset to your team?

Body shaming I save for last. I have been asking myself for a long time – “When the women became so obsessed with their bodies?” I mean, fit fashion scares me more and more with time. Suddenly, we’ve established standards and canons of beauty that have nothing to do with female bodies! As a consequence, we hide under clothes, try dangerous diets, work too hard in the gym, and allow body shaming when someone isn’t fit enough. The truth is, only a few can have perfect bodies and proportions! These are not standards that should be followed. The female body has to go through so many changes over the years! Puberty and menstrual cycle, hormones, pregnancy. Isn’t it enough? Let’s take it easy my darling friends and enjoy how imperfect our bodies are! Why can we laugh at things we cannot change?

Let’s be kind and understanding! Let’s cultivate a healthy approach to food and style! Let’s compliment each other for who we are! Let’s focus on health, not size! Let’s stop classifying to pretty/ ugly, skinny/fat! Let’s take responsibility for our comments! Be the one who inspires yourself and others to be a healthy and normal woman. Be the one who doesn’t hide under too-big clothes. Be the one who accepts imperfections. Be the one who never criticizes the look and figure. Help yourself and other women accept the differences, kilograms, and centimeters.

to be heard, to be noticed, to be accepted

 

Three needs that determine happiness and fulfillment in life. 💝 Let them be your inspiration for action. Start with small steps! Ask questions. Stop saying yes when you want to say no. Do not support people who are trying to convince you that something is wrong with you. Always put yourself before others. Start discovering yourself and you will inspire your kids, life partner, friends, and co-workers.

I wouldn’t be here if not the support of my girlfriends. I look at myself every morning and smile at the love that I see in my eyes. And I wish you the same with all my heart. Thank you for spending your time with me. I can’t thank you enough. I am because you are. I hope you jump in here again next week. I seriously can’t wait. 🙂

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