– Knock! Knock! – Who’s there? – It’s a new ME!

Take a deep breath (pause). BREATH slowly. Repeat it two or even three times (pause, pause, pause). You can do it anywhere without casting suspicion. Are you thinking now – What does she want from me? I just want you to slow down for a moment. I hope that today’s post will give you strength!

Do you remember what you promised yourself (and me) in the last post? No more burying your head in the sand! It’s time to take action and show who you are. But how?! But where to start?! Forget it. Let’s pretend that these questions never existed. Try to keep it simple. If you are reading this post it means that you want to change. We are in this together. Remember.

“You look at yourself and you accept yourself for who you are, and once you accept yourself for who you are you become a better person.”

Oprah Winfrey

ACCEPTANCE is the first and most difficult step on the way to your authentic style. Acceptance means looking at yourself from a completely new perspective. Acceptance is honesty. Acceptance is to feel ok with who you are and how you look like. Acceptance is the greatest give you could give yourself.

You are strong enough.

I would like you to stand in front of the mirror and look carefully at your body. Observe, but don’t judge! I know you carry your shyness, your criticism, and your fear of being judged. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Look at yourself differently this time. Ask yourself the first question – Which part of your body do you like best? Focus on it so that you can relax more. Ask yourself the second question – How do you emphasize your favorite part of the body? Think about what clothes you wear. Maybe you cover it by wearing too big clothes? Now ask yourself the question number three – Which part of the body you don’t like and why?

What makes you so critical? Because you don’t fit in a size XS? And who said that every woman needs to wear the size XS? Who said that fashion magazines are the oracle in terms of beauty and femininity? Friends? TV? Or maybe some cosmic power visited you in your dream and created “The Beauty Law” that says that beauty starts and ends up with one size? Or maybe you just assume that every woman should look like a model? Nonsense! The models present clothes, not beauty standards! This is a business. It’s all about the sale. In your life, it’s not about selling. You want to be happy.

There is no such thing as a standard-setter for beauty. Beauty is immeasurable. Beauty is a combination of physical features, emotions, and character It is our time that we blindly follow other people’s opinions, which nobody verifies in terms of social harm. Unfortunately!

Why do you give people the opportunity to influence your self-esteem? Right now you MUST get rid of all the negative filters, stereotypes and bad tips that you carried your whole life. You must let go of every little thought that made you become your harshest critic. I don’t want anyone to take advantage of you or getting on your way. I want you to control the way that people treat you and think about you.

I know that the female body goes through many stages. Sometimes you lose weight, sometimes you gained weight. Or after pregnancy, you barely recognize yourself in the mirror. But if you think of what your body has gone through, you should add +10 to self-confidence! To me, you’re big! You’re strong! You’re brave! I congratulate you with all my heart. You gave shelter to a new citizen of the world. You provided a safe place to grow. It’s hard to expect you to be the same woman after such a spectacular event! It’s hard to expect you to put on the same jeans you bought five years earlier. If you didn’t get your body back after pregnancy, does it mean you’re a worse woman? Is this the reason to treat your body so poorly? Feeling not good enough cause you saw a photo in which another woman showed a flat stomach a few weeks after pregnancy? Who is she for you? Why is she having such an impact on your life? Why do you feel guilty about a person who never played an important role in your life? Does her figure make her a better person?

As a stylist, I know that every, EVERY figure can be dressed amazingly! Nowadays, you can perfectly match clothes for every body shape and personality. But first, you have to accept yourself. Without a critical assessment, without comparing yourself with other women. We both know that you deserve it.

When I was 12 I struggled with anorexia. Nobody knew how to help me. For almost seven years I’ve been in conflict with my own body. I felt like a stranger – not my head, not my body, not my emotions. It was difficult to live normally because my appearance obscured all the joy of life. Of course, I didn’t let anything get in touch! Inside me, there was an endless drama with which I tried to deal with myself. I promised myself to do everything in my power to stop criticism and body shaming.

“While working on acceptance, you can’t forget the most important. Respect what you can’t accept. ”

Dorota Hołówka

Nobody wants you to be perfect. Perfection doesn’t exist. You also don’t have to look like a copy of someone who’s famous. All we need is you. You are beautiful and unique with all imperfections. You’re a woman, a citizen of the world, you are enough to accept yourself.

Thank you for being here. Thank you for sharing your time with me. It means so much to me! The comment section below is for you. Use this space to share your story with me. If you enjoyed it, please share it with your friends. Let us reach as many women as possible! Let’s help each other. Let’s support each other. Let’s be kind to each other. Let’s stay together. Girl power!

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Magda Netkowska
  • Karola M
    Posted at 11:43h, 29 April Reply

    I love the post! It’s the biggest step in my opinion to accept what you see in the mirror. Still struggling though.

    • Magda Netkowska
      Posted at 17:30h, 29 April Reply

      Karolina thank you! I also struggle from time to time and that’s ok too. As long as you don’t punish yourself. Girl power!

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