Understand your fear and stay safe during the pandemic period

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Understand your fear and stay safe during the pandemic period

I’m scared. Our current situation turned my world upside down. I’m not writing this to make you feel more scared or insecure, quite the opposite. I want to make sure that you know that we are in this together, and you are not alone in your fear! We can handle it together. I have lived most of my life in fear, and I know that if you let fear control your life, you will lose strength to make changes in your life.

Today, more than ever, you need to understand your fear. Many of us have a negative experience with fear. I know people who are afraid of being scared! But listen, once you learn to understand your fear, you will be guided towards a better life. And because of that, you will be all right, regardless of the circumstances.

The only thing guaranteed in life is changes. You will not always be ready for these changes, but you can learn to take lessons from them. 

If you are underestimating the situation, pretend that nothing is happening, and share online conspiracy theories, you are displacing the problem. Your attitude doesn’t affect you and your community. The problem exists and is not a media invention. Nobody knows what consequences the virus will have for the world. For now, we know that we should stay at home. Suddenly, like a bolt of lighting, a completely new reality has fallen on us. You have the right to be angry, sad, or insecure. You may have no plan for the future. Feel whatever your heart wants you to feel. Don’t hold anything inside your heart. Don’t pretend, but share your fear with someone you trust and feel safe. It is your right.

Fear is not a bad thing. Don’t be afraid of fear. Don’t push it away from your consciousness. Fear is the great advisor that can show you the areas of your life that need your special attention.

Nobody didn’t know it will turn like this. Suddenly, everything changed. The fear that overwhelms you is understandable. You are worried about yourself and your loved ones. It’s an act of love and compassion for which you should thank yourself. At the same time, you have a unique chance to take a deep breath, exhale, and take a lesson from this situation that will change your life forever. You are facing an opportunity to verify what works or what doesn’t work in your life. You can stand face to face with your fear. Sure, many of us are uncertain about money, bills, job retention, the economy in the next year or two. But these are the things you can’t control. You have no power to change the situation. The one thing you can control is your attitude.

Sure, you can sit down and torturing yourself with questions: how will I live? Am I going to lose my job? Will I be able to pay my bills? But… WHAT GOOD WITH THAT DO? Can you find the answers now? Do you know when the pandemic will end? Do you know what global changes will take place? NO! So you can’t guess the worst. If you do so, my dear friends, you will put yourself out of work to make changes and bring your life to the next level.

If you stop writing the horror scenarios, you will have time to look at your life. Did you enjoy life before the pandemic? Was your career taking you to the place where you want to be? Did you have enough time for yourself? Did you take care of your health? Did you spend as much time with your family as you would like? Did you appreciate money? Did you tell your loved ones are important to you?

Fear is a signpost. Don’t you have more time for your family now? Don’t you have more time for your body now? Don’t you have the opportunity to eat home and control your diet? It’s the best time to learn new eating habits that will replace the old once. Do you miss your workplace and the people from work? I know what it’s like when you hate the work you do. My hotel work felt like a prison and still, I couldn’t quit. I was so afraid to change it that I almost had a breakdown and depression. Don’t make the same mistake that I did.

 

Today, I invite you to stop for a little while and take a close look into your heart and soul. I have a few tips that will help you learn a lesson from this situation. Ready?

Accept what comes without judgment. There are things you have no control over

If the world has stopped running, we are at home, and we are fighting for a better tomorrow, when will it be time to make changes? When is the better time to admit to yourself that you don’t want to go back to the lifestyle you had before? Accept the situation without judgment. You don’t know what changes it will bring. You don’t influence it. Do you need extra stress now? Here are the facts: You are at home. You have two legs and two arms. You have a unique combination of skills and abilities that nobody else has. You have emotions that you want to share with others. You have people who support you. Do you think this is not enough to start over if needed?

Remove items from your To-Do List

When I came back home last Saturday, I made a complicated To-Do List. Suddenly, I found a million things that I didn’t have time to do before. From just looking at the list, I head a headache. I was angry and guilty for not wanting to do all of these things. Are you with me? Do you know this feeling? I got so pissed that I repped off the list and felt better immediately. I decided that all I had to do was be with myself. I won’t do anything I don’t feel like doing! Some things have to wait a little longer. Can you do the same? Can you give up on your list? Can you give up planning and torturing yourself with activities that you don’t feel like doing?

Do less without feeling guilty

Perhaps the only thing you want is to lie in bed. And that’s ok! Do it if you have the opportunity. There is no competition – Who will do or learn more!!! Although sometimes I feel like some people are crazy about their desperation for attention. It’s time to recharge your batteries. You may not have space for new things right now. Perhaps the only thing your body demands is rest. Listen to yourself. Tune to this beautiful song within you. Maybe you need more sleep, a different diet, less coffee, or more sport? Allow yourself to do nothing. You won’t find out if you keep doing things! Leave the guilt behind the door. Do you remember how it feels to do nothing?

Don’t believe everything you read

Don’t believe everything you read. Check the reliability of information and try to avoid chain letters that are causing more panic. The vaccine has not yet been invented. The only thing you can trust is your common sense and immune system. Also, avoid stress and junk food. What else? Dance! Dance as much as you can. Dancing releases endorphins and boosts the immune system. Bring all the situations in which you felt safe and remember that the best is yet to come. 🙂 Go back to happy moments. Where were you then? Try to feel the positive emotions of that moment. Or maybe you want to start a new type of home training! I recommend yoga or pilates, but only if you feel like trying.

Stop

Stop, together with me and the world. It’s important to run away from thoughts that cause you more fear, even for a few seconds. Stop. Be in silence. When was the last time you were alone with yourself? When did you find space only for yourself? The dishes will wait, the windows will wait, tomorrow’s dinner will wait. Only this moment will not wait, because soon it will be passed. Will you catch HERE AND NOW? Fingers crossed.

Breath 

If you feel that you are getting to anxiety or panic attack, and you start having frightening questions, focus on the breath immediately. Start breathing deep and exhale slowly. Inhale. Feel your chest rising slowly with every breath you take. Hold the air inside. Exhale. Slowly and suck your belly in. You will quickly calm your broken nerves and get out of an aggressive state of stress and tension. You are safe. You breathe. That’s all that matters.

Be good like Superman and help others 

See if there is anyone in your area who may need your help. If at the time of crisis, you can help another person, you experience a deep connection. Fulfillment, kindness, and gratitude are the results of selfless generosity. It can be something small, like not canceling your monthly membership. Helping is an act of kindness, compassion, and love. Helping builds invisible bonds that reinforce positive experiences. Check on Facebook who needs help in your area. Ask your friends, maybe they know someone in a difficult situation, who will appreciate your help. Karma is coming back, so let’s do good.

Support local businesses 

Support local businesses. Choose local food, restaurant, and shop. Can you support products from your area and not buy products imported from abroad? Can you buy fewer clothes and accessories and invest in our brands that produce locally? Show solidarity, explore the local market and discover new flavors you may have been looking for a long time. These products will be more expensive, but their quality is incomparable. Check which restaurants deliver take-out food. You may have enough cooking and wish to eat something made for you. Ask friends, check your Facebook, and open your eyes to local brands. We need each other more than two months ago.

Have you seen my Stories lately? A week ago I started the game called questions and answers. I ask one question per day and answer it myself. I want us to get to know us better and create a community that supports each other in these difficult times. The questions relate to your dreams, desires, and beautiful stories from your life. I also have a question for you:

What’s the one thing that you would love for the world right now? 

I would love to make people understand their fear. 

Thank you for bein here. Thank you for being you. I hope that my post was helpful and you don’t feel lonely or guilty of your feelings. We are in this together. Remember!

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